Unlocking the Power Within: Overcoming Social Anxiety
Discover how to overcome social anxiety by reclaiming parts of yourself, taking external actions, and embracing your true self.
00:00:00 Loneliness is not just about being alone. Many people who have friends, relationships, and families still feel lonely. We often put on a mask and perform for others, but this prevents us from truly expressing ourselves and living authentically.
🤝 Loneliness can be felt even when surrounded by friends, family, or in a relationship.
😷 Many people put on a mask and pretend to be fine, hiding their true feelings and struggles.
👶 Social conditioning teaches us to perform and conform from a young age, suppressing our true selves.
00:05:20 A study on social anxiety reveals how self-awareness leads to disowning parts of oneself and performing for approval, even in young children.
💡 Around the age of two, children start becoming more self-conscious and aware of others' opinions about them.
✨ This awareness leads to a fear of disapproval, which becomes the currency of their survival.
🌍 Children's perspective of the world is limited to their family and school, and situations that may seem insignificant to adults can be traumatic for them.
00:10:41 Facing and overcoming social anxiety involves reclaiming parts of ourselves that we have suppressed and disowned. We learn to challenge the fear that these parts will threaten our survival and realize that they are not a real threat.
🔑 Suppressing parts of ourselves, such as being loud, can stem from childhood experiences where those behaviors threatened our survival.
🔑 When we avoid facing our fears and keep parts of ourselves locked away, it prevents us from feeling whole and impacts our self-worth and self-esteem.
🔑 Society conditions us to believe that we are not born good enough and that we need external validation and success to compensate for our perceived defects.
00:16:02 Learn how to overcome social anxiety by reowning and embodying the parts of yourself that you disowned. Take external actions to trigger and release resistance, and repeat the process for growth.
🔑 Reowning the parts of yourself that you have disowned is essential for feeling at home with yourself.
🔑 One external technique that can help with reowning and embodying disowned parts is the action trigger release repeat method.
🔑 Screaming as loud as you can in a safe environment can trigger resistance and tension and help release them.
00:21:26 Learn how to overcome social anxiety by retraining yourself to speak louder externally while internally accepting it as the new normal. Discover the power of expression and the difference between force and true power.
📌 Talking quietly for a long time can feel normal internally but may come across as too quiet externally.
🔊 Retraining oneself to speak at a normal volume can help overcome social anxiety and improve communication skills.
🎙️ Using extreme examples to illustrate the difference between forcing loudness and achieving true power in expression.
00:26:49 Learn how to overcome social anxiety and embrace your true self by letting go and choosing to express yourself authentically.
🔑 Letting go allows you to loosen up and be yourself, whether you're loud or quiet.
🔒 Being quiet but charismatic is a choice, while being quiet out of obligation is driven by fear.
🚗 Motivational fuels, such as fear and anger, can be used temporarily, but purpose and love are the ideal ones.
00:32:11 Overcoming social anxiety is about embracing your true self and finding your inner power. Embrace your authentic expression and let go of the fear of judgment.
🗣️ Expressing anger and being true to yourself can bring out a sense of empowerment and authenticity.
🔊 Increasing the volume of your expression can have a transformative effect on your confidence and presence.
🤯 Overcoming resistance and self-doubt is key to unlocking your potential and embracing your true self.
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